So this sorta came outta nowhere. Although I guess there were signs and I was just brushing them off coz I really thought I was just overthinking again. I think a co-worker of mine is trying to ask me out. For tradition's sake, we'll give him a codename and it shall be for YC which means younger co-worker.
How much younger you ask? 5 years.
I know its not that big of a gap and people are gonna preach that age is just a number. So let me defend myself by saying that he is far too mature for his age and he doesn't look or act that young. He takes care of his dad, he pays for everything and works for everything, he knows what's it like to be homeless... basically he's gone through a lot and has made it through a lot. In short, I've got a lot of respect for this guy.
But that's it. That's all I got. I don't think I'm attracted to him but at the same time I don't think I'd turn him down if he asked either. He's got lots of good qualities for sure. So my dilemma is if I did go out with him, am I just wasting his time if I don't find myself attracted to him. KC brings up a good point that that's what dates are for... to find out if you really like each other. There's no commitments for a second date or being in relationship. But its not the commitment part that throws me off, its the idea that I'm gonna ruin a perfectly good friendship between co-workers if it didn't work out between us.
Before I get carried away, you maybe asking why I think he likes me. So here are possible signs that never really meant anything until I put the pieces together.
1.) We were talking about movies and he brought up watching Spiderman together. That's like the first sign I could really think of but during that time I thought he just wanted to hangout as a group with the rest of the co-workers so I said if it works with everyone else's schedule why not. He didn't really bother trying to set the movie outing then.
2.) Before going to Hawaii, he asked if I wanted any souvenir. I just casually brought up that I collect seashells. He said he'd bring some for me. And he did but when he came back I was already in the new department and our schedules don't match so he still hasn't been able to give it to me.
3.) One time I got off work and he was about to start, he reminded me again of the seashells. Then he just asked for my phone number. This was probably the real opener for me. Coz he could've just messaged me on Facebook.
4.) Very next day he messages me how my day was and what I was up to. I've never had a guy initiate a conversation that soon. Not saying that everyone should follow that 3 day waiting period policy coz that's bull. But I had to admit, it made me happy having a conversation with someone new.
There's probably other signs before too but I just missed it I guess. So now, I'm not sure what to do. I've decided to just communicate with him like I do with my other friends. I don't want him to misinterpret what I do... the same way I misinterpret what CD did. Speaking of, I find it funny how this whole situation is making me realize that CD maybe really doesn't like me that way. It's like how I feel for YC is how CD probably feels for me. A good friend you don't want to lose but you're also not attracted to.
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